 BONDAGE INSTRUMENTSFirstly we need again to differentiate between the three activities Spanking, Bondage and Sado Masochism.
I also use the 'leg spreader (shown on the left. This is an excellent restraint which keeps' your partner's legs apart and offers infinte chances of play. The ideal leg spreader should be 30 inches wide, made of metal, and it has a strap at each end for the ankles. As it says' on the packet' it spreads the legs wide when fastened. A pussy whip is ideal in these circumstances. This should be a simple 'flogger' with soft leather lashes. The objest is to stimulate the pussy not hurt it. In the Introductiry Chapters I introduced you to the idea of Bondage as an extra in your sexual 'play' armoury. I will not reiterate the warning I gave at the beginning of Part 1 and in the Chapter 'SAFE WORD' but assume that these have been read and understood. However it is worth remembering that Bondage to me includes Spanking Instruments , leather cuffs, leg-spreader and ROPE Beyond this we are into the SM mode!. One of the simplest ways which requires NO equipment except rope . About rope. If purchasing this I recommend the soft nylon rope which is available from every garden or hardware shop. It is not abrasive, never jams and is comfortable for the spankee. The following website offers EVERYTHING you need
Instruments I recommend. For full details of the Spanking Instruments see Instruments in the menu above; however here are one or two I use myself and which can be found on websites.
Bondage kits for play can be bought as a set and these useually include the wrist straps and blindfold. Some also include a gag but I would never use one as I find it frightens many ladies. If you would like to see what is on offer then go to the link above!
Door and Rope Simple playThe simplest of all is to use a door and a rope. Tie your partner's hands together, pass the rope over the top of a door (make sure that it is jammed in position and will not move) and fasten the rope to the door handle on the OTHER side after drawing you partner's arms as high as they will go. Fasten her legs wide with a leg spreader either bought or using a broom handle or walking stick, and then you have them in the perfect position for a controlled spanking. Lots of use of the hand followed by caressing of the bottom and play with the pussy will prove VERY effect. Now introduce the first instrument to her. I do not recommend 'do it yourself' as to me a wooden spoon or back of a hairbrush is not suitable. Buy a paddle or strap. These should be lightweight versions which sting but do not harm the bottom. If you have a paddle then spank each cheek in turn but if a strap then across both cheeks at the same time. The Ladder Many homes have a ladder which is a very exciting addition to your repertoire. The ladder needs to be either fastened against the wall - a couple of small screw eyes at about 8 feet from the ground is ideal. The ladder is fixed in place fastened to the wall at an angle. The lady, who should be naked or just wearing knickers is taken to the ladder and with a cushion between her and the rungs (helps to push the bottom out as well as more comfortable) she stands on the lower rung. Her hands are fastened to the top of the ladder so that she is now stretched with her calves and thighs under tension. Her bottom will be relaxed as she cannot tension it in this position. Again as always start with simple hand spanking, massage and 'testing the hole'! Here I recommend that you have bought a soft multi-thonged whip. This is used up and down the back, buttocks, thighs and calves to stimulate the body. Now change to your paddle or strap and begin to spank. Now I would suggest that you 'up the ante' slightly and starting slowly and gently aim for two dozen strokes. If you start gently then her bottom will be attuned and waiting for the next stroke and the build up in pain in the bottom is gradual and acts as a sexual stimulant. After a dozen you will probably see her spend running down the inside of her thighs. This is a good time for some play with her anus and pussy. Rub her clitoris - not enough for orgasm but to lift her libido. You will find that she stretches to the pleasure she is receiving and again.Finish the second dozen making sure that the last two STING! It will not be long before you unfasten her and follow the inevitable road to bed and mutual pleasure. Read the Chapter on 'Dos and Donts befoe moving on to those on Erotic Bondage. Patience will prove an exellent master!
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Bondage is a much more reclusive activity between consenting adults. It requires a much more intimate handling as the partners must have absolute trust in each other. It is NOT for 'a one night stand' as, beside the eotic side it also reuires deep emotial responses. Also unlike Spanking which has few restraints bondgae includes a whole host of [hysical restraints. These can be divided into metal and non metalallic restraints. Non-metal restraints used wrist or ankle cuffs, heavy duty cloth,nylon webbing and rope (NEVER,EVER use metal handcuffs)! A good 'Christmas present' for your partner is a set of two leather wrist cuffs, two ankle cuffs and several long leather straps - the uses of which offer endless pleaure and experimentation. Add to this a nylon rope and play 
Wooden paddles as seen in the US Univerity Soriety pictures should never ever be bought or used. These are very dangerous and can bruise a bottom badly. Let me explain. Leath has a 'give' in it which allows it to absorb the sting on the bttocks thus producing lots of sound but no hurt. The wooden paddle - especially those which have been varnished are lethal. They hit like an iron bar and there is no 'absorbtion' and all the force drives into the bum causing massive bruising. All my spanking life I have tried to warn against their use and I have received a number of emails thanking me from people who have suffered them or not bought them. Plastic is similar in its lack of resilience and LEATHER is the only material which gives a perfect spanking.