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What is fellatio?
FeELLATIO is oral sex performed on a man. One thing remains true in all oral sex encounters: good oral sex starts with good communication. Finding out what he likes will go a long way to performing satisfying oral sex. Usually it is best to ask a man after he has received oral sex so that he can recount what aspects he most enjoyed. Through a few easy principles you can learn what makes incredible fellatio possible.
We have included three expert discussions on the whys and wherefores of Fellatio but in the end like all sex it comes down to experimentation and what suits you and your partner.
Below we provide a general discussion of some techniques for better fellatio. If you're looking for a more detailed approach, we highly recommend Nina Hartley's Guide To Better Fellatio. Ms. Hartley explains and demonstrates various fellatio techniques, gives her own personal insights on arousing your partner, and shares her years of sexual experience. The best instructional video on the subject.
Techniques for fellatio: doing it right.
Some issues and practical concerns regarding fellatio
Giving great fellatio is not a difficult task once you know where to begin. First, a word about semen. You may or may not enjoy the taste of semen (salty and sour with a somewhat viscous texture) depending on your partner or your own preferences. Semen tastes different depending on the man. If you prefer not to swallow or spit the semen, you may ask your partner to signal you when he reaches the point before climax. At this point, continue gentle stimulation with your hands.
You may also want to use condoms, which are highly recommended in the practice of safer sex anyway. Flavored condoms or a special Candy. will make it even more interesting. You can also try a nice water-based lubricant, such as Astroglide Strawberry. Lubricants come in a wide variety of flavors and can often help heighten the sensitivity of the penis during fellatio. A particularly good one to try out here is Good Head Gel, which comes in mint and cinnamon. This gel creates an exciting icy heat for the man while providing a delicious taste for his partner.
Another issue for many people is whether or not to "deep throat" or take the penis past the gag reflex in the throat. Many people have learnt how to control their gag reflex, but good fellatio does not depend on deep throating. Many men do not even notice when you do it.
There's more to fellatio than the penis
Too many people during fellatio concentrate solely on the penis. The penis does contain highly sensitive erectile tissue, but there are many other sexually sensitive areas on a manís body. Unknown to many are the pleasures that men receive from having their entire genital area massaged. During oral sex the penis can be stimulated while these other areas are massaged. Many men like to have their scrotum and testes fondled or licked during oral sex. This could be as simple as placing your hand and cupping the scrotum, or as bold as taking the testes into your mouth. The most erogenous zones on a manís genitals include the back of the head of the penis, the line of skin that runs down the center of the testicles, and the underside of the shaft of the penis. Try stimulating these areas with your tongue as well as taking the entire penis into the mouth.
Another form of stimulation that many men like is to have their perineum stroked. The perineum is the area in between the scrotum and the anus. This area is sensitive when the male is aroused. You may like to try rigorously massaging the perineum just prior to orgasm which gives many men a rush of pleasure. Some men like to have their prostate massaged during oral sex as well. This is accomplished by placing your finger up the manís anus. Make sure that your fingernails have been cut short and place some lubricant on your finger. Gently run your hand from the perineum to the anus and massage the outside of the anus. Push your finger in the anus with your palm up. Slowly raise your finger until you feel a bump. This bump grows throughout age; it may be the size of a golf ball in young adulthood and the size of a pear in later life. Stimulation of the prostate is an incredible sensation that amazes most men.
When performing fellatio, don't concentrate solely on the penis. The surrounding areas are also very sensitive. For example, massaging the area between the scrotum and the anus will drive your man wild.
Apply pressure with your fingers or better still use a vibrator like the Pocket Rocket to add to his bliss.
The main event
Now that you have learned about stimulating the areas around the penis it is time to learn about how to stimulate the penis itself. While the penis is a generally sensitive organ, there are many areas of the penis which are not particularly responsive to stimulation. When learning how to give great fellatio you must concentrate on the most sensitive areas of the penis. The first area which is particularly sensitive is the frenulum. This is the area just below the head of the penis on the underside, and is perhaps the most sensitive part of the penis. The seam of the penis which runs from the scrotum to the head, the base of the penis, and the entire head of the penis are other sensitive areas. You can concentrate on these by licking or sucking just around the particular area.
Once you have the penis in your mouth there are a couple of guidelines which will make oral sex more pleasurable for your partner and less stressful for you. First of all, most men do not like the feeling of teeth on their penis. Teeth can cause discomfort and may even rip the skin if you are not careful. There are some men who like a little bit of the friction which teeth can provide but it is best to minimize teeth to penis contact. This is easily accomplished by tucking your lips around your teeth before you perform fellatio. A way to practice is to place your lips together and teeth apart. Open your lips slowly while keeping your teeth apart and there you have it. Another important aspect of fellatio is lubrication. Most people use their own saliva as lubrication. If you are using a condom for fellatio, try to buy an unlubricated variety. Lubricated condoms tend to have a bad taste. If you'd like to try lubricant during fellatio, you can purchase a flavored lubricant to turn a normal latex condom into something tasty, or use it on its own for a unique experience.
These and many other practical tips are available in Nina Hartley's Guides To Loving a Man. Porn-starlet Nina Hartley guides the viewer through all she knows about pleasing a man. The video is infused with humor and real honest advice. If you're looking for more general information on how to please a man, then take a look at this video.
Body placement during fellatio: make sure that you're both comfortable. There are numerous techniques and variety as they say is the spice of life.
Finding an agreeable position for fellatio is usually not a difficult task. The key aspects are that the man is comfortable and that the person performing fellatio has access to the genitals. With an erect penis there is an additional consideration; the person giving head should be positioned so that the angle of the penis and the angle of the giverís throat are somewhat aligned.
A common position for fellatio is when the man receiving sits or lies on a bed with his partner kneeling or laying on the ground in front of him. This gives the person who is performing oral sex complete access to the penis, scrotum and anus. The position is also at a good angle for the throat so that entry of the penis into the mouth is not a problem. (Note: if you do not like the man receiving fellatio to stroke your hair or face during oral sex then tell him beforehand. It can be extremely non-erotic if both of you are turned off by his gesture.)
Another position that may interest you and your partner is to allow the man to very carefully insert and withdraw the penis from the mouth. Typically the performer of fellatio will lie comfortably on the bed and receive his or her partner from above. If you are trying this position for the first time then it may be a good idea to have the man hold the base of his penis so that the penis doesn't enter so far as to put pressure on your gag reflex.
You may also want to try mutual oral sex in the Ď69í position. This can be accomplished either with one partner above on all fours, or laying on each otherís sides. In the case of male-female mutual oral sex, you may want to try having the man lay on his back so the woman can better control penetration in her mouth.
Here is how About Sexuality suggests it can be done
Whether you use the technical term fellatio or call it a blow job, going down on a man, or giving him head, performing fellatio is an act that requires a lot of trust and a little bit of knowledge. Social messages about fellatio suggest that guys love it so much they donít care about technique. In reality there is a lot of variation in fellatio skills, and knowing how to read your partner, what to do to him, and when to do it can make all the difference.
1. Start him off nice and clean.
Social stigma seems to focus on the taste of womenís genitals more than menís. In fact men can smell and taste just as strong as women. If you're new to fellatio, you might be worried about taste and smell. If so, suggest a sexy bath or shower together and start with a clean slate. You can also add a bit of flavored personal lubricant to his penis or put on a flavored condom, which is great for safer oral sex.
2. Physical comfort is key.
You canít have fun and perform well if youíre not physically comfortable, and fellatio can put a strain on your neck and jaw. Kneeling before him on a pillow, while heís standing or sitting, gives you good range of motion and plenty of access. If youíve had bad experiences with fellatio where you felt lack of control, have him on his back and crouch in between his legs. Giving head can put you in a major power position, if you like that feeling then go for it.
3. Tease him with touch.
Using your hands first, gently caress his inner thighs, penis, testicles, and perineum, paying attention to his reactions (verbal and facial) as you touch certain spots. The most sensitive spot on a guyís penis is the head (known as the glans), especially the frenulum, an indentation between the glans and the shaft on the underside of the penis. You might want to brush up on your knowledge of male sexual anatomy , to know what youíre working with.
4. Give him a lick.
Follow up with your tongue, exploring the same terrain using slow wide strokes with your tongue. Donít be afraid to use lots of saliva, as this natural lube feels great and helps create friction and suction. There are many STDs that can be passed during fellatio, using flavored condoms is a great way to practice safer sex and deal with any taste you may not like. It is also a perfect way to get guys who say they have difficulty with condoms, to gladly put one on.
5. Take him in your mouth.
When heís semi-erect, slowly guide your lips over the tip of his penis, making sure your lips cover your teeth as you slide gently down his shaft as far as youíre comfortable. Keep your mouth taut, as the pressure from your lips will feel great as they glide down the penis. Putting him in your mouth before he is fully erect is a good way of getting comfortable with the size of his penis, particularly if he is in the larger range.
6. Watch the gag reflex.
If youíre not adept at deep throat (taking the whole penis in your mouth), donít try it or youíll trigger the gag reflex. Itís not necessary and a similar effect can be achieved with the hand and mouth technique described below. With practice, you can learn to relax your gag reflex and take in more of the penis.
7. Use your mouth and tongue.
As your head travels up the underside of the penis, flatten your tongue so it gives his frenulum a nice wide, wet stroke. Donít be afraid to try different types of licks or kissesóthe lips feel good when popped over the ridge of the penisóbut perform each stroke repeatedly before changing to give consistent pleasure.
8. Have fun with the foreskin.
If your partner is uncircumcised, insert your tongue into the foreskin and circle around the head with it. You can also use your fingers to gently massage the head through the foreskin, alternating with deep tongue licks.
9. Using your mouth and hand, tip #1.
A great blow job incorporates both hands and mouth. Place one hand around the shaft of his penis while you move up and down on the top half of his penis. Try coordinating your movements so your hand and mouth are going up and down in unison. If you're partner is thrusting, your hand will prevent his penis from being pushed too far into your mouth.
10. Using your mouth and hand, tip #2.
If he likes this combination, bring your hand all the way up the shaft (following your mouth), remove your mouth briefly, use your palm to slide and twist over the head (as if you were juicing an orange), and then glide your hand back down followed by your mouth again. Repeat.
11. Let him come.
When heís ready to orgasm, keep your movements consistent and firmódonít slack off. Once he starts ejaculating, see him through with a few strokes and then stop, as most men donít want continued stimulation once theyíve ejaculated and had an orgasm.
12. To swallow or not to swallow?
This decision is entirely up to you. There's nothing wrong with you if you don't want to, but it's nice to let your partner know it's nothing personal. If you don't want to swallow, and you arenít familiar with the signs of imminent ejaculation , let him know you want a warning. Remove your mouth as he's about to ejaculate, and continue hand stroking through his orgasm.
1. Donít forget the rest of his body. The scrotum and testicles (balls) are particularly sensitive, and most men like them to be stimulated. Try lightly licking or touching his testicles during oral sex. He might also like them to be cradled gently in one of your hands. Some men go wild when you place your hand around the top of the scrotum and gently tug down.
2. You can also apply pressure to his perineum (the spot between his anus and his penis) with one or two fingers, as this also can feel good.
3. He might like wearing a butt plug during fellatio for added prostate stimulation. Or you can apply pressure to his anus with one of your fingers.
From NVSH a Dutch site another explanation.
# Hold the penis by fellatio with your full hand, or with just your thumb and index finger encircling the base, squeezing lightly from time to time to make the penis stand up even harder and grow to maximum size.
# You can observe the excitement in him mounting by the fellatio, since his breathing goes faster, his muscles tense, he may sigh or moan, his testicles rise and the scrotum contracts against the base of the penis.
# If you put your mouth around the glans of the penis, keep your teeth away from the sensitive skin. In fellatio there should be no violent or monotonous blind movement on your part, but conscious, pleasure-giving motion with some variety, just covering the glans and coming up and then coming down all the way as far as you feel comfortable.
# Only by the time he is sufficiently aroused by the fellatio to be on the way to a climax do you continue the movement you are making, stimulating the same area persistently, but of course without causing any pain or discomfort until he reaches the climax and a second later ejaculates, so you have time to move your head aside.
# After sufficient experience with fellatio, under safe conditions, and if you like to try it, you can let him come inside your mouth. You can decide to swallow the semen or hold it in your mouth and then let it flow from your mouth onto his belly or leg. Have a tissue or handkerchief at hand to wipe it away, but it can also be rubbed over his body as part of the love session.
# The taste of semen is like oyster without salt, and it's a little sticky, so keep a glass of water at hand if you want to rinse your mouth.